Facebook YouTube Dr. Phil Blog Be On Dr. Phil Relationships/Sex Printer Friendly Version of this Article Be on the Show Husband's First Wife Need a Reality Check? Wedding Battles? In-Law Ruining Your Life? Questioning the Father of Your Baby? Constantly Fighting With Other Women? Is Internet Pornography Cheating? Internet pornography is a growing hard porn trend that has many people worried about their relationships. Is it cheating? And is it a "normal guy thing"? Here's what Dr. Phil believes: It is not OK behavior. It is a perverse and ridiculous intrusion into your relationship. It is an insult, it is disloyal and it is cheating. Consider how it makes your partner feel. If it makes your partner feel ugly, hurt, deceived, lied to or inadequate, then it needs to stop. If it is eroding your relationship, it's gone too far. Pornography isn't real, it's a fantasy. It's makeup, beauty lenses, hair extensions, camera angles, lighting and silicone! It's also somebody's daughter who has taken a really, really wrong turn. She's demeaning herself, debasing herself, humiliating herself and she's being exploited by people who are funded by you. It is a sick, demented, twisted world. It's not healthy, it's not natural and it's not normal. Viewing Internet pornography or engaging in cybersex is a short step to taking cheating to the next level. You need to tell your partner that viewing pornography is absolutely, unequivocally unacceptable in your relationship. Draw a line: Your partner needs to choose between the pornography or the relationship. Ask yourself or your partner: Would you do it with your partner standing right there? Are you turning outside of your relationship http://www.hardsexporn.org to meet a need that should be met within the relationship? You can't change what you don't acknowledge, so find out if you or your partner have a problem. Do you justify the behavior by saying, "It's harmless," "Everyone does it," or "It's just the Internet"? Does it intrude on your relationship? Which is more important: pornography or your relationship?

RSS Text Size Print Share This Home / news / opinion / Playboy article ignores dangers of porn industry Letter to the Editor Related Five AU women in Playboy's 'Girls of the SEC' By: Gary W. Scivicque of Auburn | Letter to the editor Published: November 01, 2011 » 1 Comments | Post a Comment I am extremely disappointed in the casual, free porn positive tone of the article "Five AU women featured in Playboy" because it ignores the following realities: » It ignores the reality that there's little fundamental difference between pornographers and pimps. » Both use the bodies of attractive young women for their own profit, with little concern for their personal or professional development. » As women in the porn industry age, they recognize that pornography is exploitation, and that they have been left with a severely damaged self-image and without marketable skills. Second, the article also ignores the reality that this kind of reporting helps create a culture of pornography as an accepted norm. While reporting some factual information, the article became a platform http://www.pornloves.org for an Auburn coed to voice a naïve opinion that a pornographic eight-page spread is "a very tasteful pictorial," a way to "represent Auburn in an exciting and different way," and that "if it's something that (other girls) want to do, I would say go for it.” That's an invitation to exploitation in a culture that supposedly values men and women equally. As long as men use women's bodies for profit, then callously cast them aside when they age, there will be no equality in our society. The article also ignores the reality that every click on a porn site and every magazine purchased fuels an industry that has a multitude of connections to the oppressive world of human trafficking. A host of scholarly articles document these connections. My appeal is for responsible reporting that does not treat issues damaging to the human person — like pornography — as a casual fling. The Auburn coeds who participated have not lived long enough to see the long-term impact of pornography. Your staff has, so I would expect more from your paper.

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I often glance at Aish's advice columns. I've always wanted to do family therapy/couples counseling so I like to see the questions, what they respond and what I would respond. The topics that are discussed give me an idea of the different contemporary issues affecting our community. Today, a particular article caught my eye: "My Husband's Porn Addiction". My first reaction was sadness. It is so sad that even this has infiltrated the purity of the Jewish home. I can only imagine the pain and embarrassment, not only that the man felt at being caught, but that the wife felt at finding out that her husband had been watching porn. A marriage is based on trust and communication. When those two pillars are broken, it is very difficult to look at one's spouse the same way. In the non Jewish world, some women would porn movie/a> laugh at this. What is the big deal? It is just porn, he is not cheating on you! But it goes against the principle of being a ben (or bat) Torah. We are an am kadosh (a holy nation). Kedusha, holiness, is the most integral component of a marriage, which is the deepest union between souls. My friends tell me that I'm too naive. Am I? Am I too naive for expecting integrity and purity from the man that I want to share olam haze (this world) and olam haba (the world to come) with? Am I too naive for thinking that some guys really are shomer? That they do not watch porn? That they behave in private like they do in public? Am I too naive? I went to a modern orthodox coed high school. I know how guys are or I should say how they can be. But we are all here to rise above our nature and out teivot (desires). We all have teivot. But they are not an excuse to justify our improper behavior. My first week in Israel as a madricha I was already taking girls to Terem (the Emergency room). I took a cab back from the hospital with two girls. I'm not really sure how we got to this but at a certain point, the cab driver started debating with me about premarital sex. He was arguing that not only is it natural, but it is important to see if two people are physically compatible. It was my first week there, I didn't really know the girls and my Hebrew was mediocre. I prayed to Hashem to give me the right answers, if not for the cab driver, at least for the girls. After the hour cab drive, the man, now in tears, was saying how he wanted to change his ways. Obviously, this wasn't a magical moment. Hashem gave me the right words to say and I wasn't arguing emotions, I was merely trying to help him see clearly. Clarity is priceless and it speaks for itself. I brought this story up was because at a certain point, he http://www.pornmovietube.net turned to me and said "Well, what are your teivot?!" He was implying that I can't understand how difficult it is. I explained to him that we all have different types of teivot and depending on where we are holding, different things are a struggle. Men and women have teivot, albeit somewhat different (or at least in different degrees/strengths). This article left me thinking. It is depressing to think that this is the spiritual state of the Jewish people. The fact that this is even a reality, is something very saddening. I hope I am not sounding melodramatic and if I am, then in a way, I've proven my own point. We have become so inured to the tumah (impurity) surrounding us, that it seems almost normal or acceptable... What is even sadder is that some people choose not to deal with their addictions or their problems, expecting them to magically disappear. As I often tell people, marriage does not make problems disappear, if anything, more issues will come up. We all have, not only different teivot, but different addictions. There is a beautiful quote by Susan Skye: "You can't punish yourself into change. You can't whip yourself into shape. But you can love yourself into well-being". I would adjust it to "spiritual well-being". On that note, I hope and pray that we all have the strength and wisdom to overcome all of our personal struggles! p.s. This is another related first hand story from Aish. Furthermore, for those struggling with this, the website "Guard Your Eyes" was highly recommended.

Porn addiction destroys relationships, lives HEALTH Internet-fed addiction leads to risky behavior, destroys relationships February 22, 2010|Regan McMahon, porn movies watch Special to The Chronicle Credit: iStock.com A 50-year-old married physician views Internet pornography for hours at home, masturbating five to seven times a day, then begins surfing porn sites at the office and risks destroying his career. A woman spends four to six hours a day in Internet chat rooms and having cybersex, and eventually starts arranging to meet online strangers for casual sex in the real world. A man spends many hours a day downloading porn, filling multiple hard drives, and devotes a separate computer just to pornography. A married couple view pornographic movies together as part of their loving relationship, http://www.pornmovieswatch.net but the husband starts spending more time watching and less time with his wife, who feels left behind and rejected. These scenarios are real-life examples of pornography addiction, a compulsive behavior that falls within the category of sex addiction - which has been in the spotlight since the explosive revelations of golf champion Tiger Woods' numerous sexual infidelities.